Big, Big Things

Last week I checked two very big things off of my 2018 to-do list.

First and foremost - my ex and I FINALLY went to the courthouse and filed our divorce papers.  2 years, 7 months, and 28 days since I decided that our relationship was officially over.  973 days.  23,352 hours.

While I don't recommend that people wait that long to make their divorce official, I am grateful that we were in a place where we could be civil.  Decide what needed to be decided over lunch and then go to the courthouse and file quickly and on our own without lawyers.  It took a very, very, very long time to get to this place.  But, I am looking forward to having it behind me.

Secondly,  I replaced my shitbox, credit builder compact sedan and got myself a beautiful, comfortable, safe, reliable, "luxury" SUV.  I could NOT be happier that I was able to have a good experience with a local dealership who helped me refinance the negative equity on the previous (damaged) car and get me into something I love.  Penny has been VERY excited to look out of the vista sunroof and I am just so RELIEVED to not be worried about the ticking time bomb that was my other car.

It feels so incredibly good to check both of those big things off my list.  I feel that now I can focus my energy better on other things.  Already, I am feeling my focus come back in how I am parenting.  I do not feel overwhelmed at the thought of planning meals or helping Penny stay on schedule. I am looking forward to getting home and relaxing instead of thinking about all the things that will be weighing on my mind.  I am feeling so very grateful to close this chapter in my life and move on to bigger and better!